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I know what you’re thinking; we need to be selfish, what? Haven’t we always been taught to give more than we receive? It’s true, we have. That ‘philosophy’ is wrong.
I was talking to a friend of mine today, we are both very similar people. We both constantly give people more of ourselves than what we really have and never leave much (if anything) for ourselves. Today we were both having slight rants and we were discussing some issues we were both having. All of a sudden my friend typed onto the screen (we were on msn) “It’s good to be selfish, we need to be selfish”. I thought about that for a bit; what in the world is he talking about? is what I kept thinking.
Then it occured to me, he is RIGHT. People in general, due need to be somewhat selfish. Life is NOT all about giving. In order to give, we must all receive. Because, if all we do is give and give and give… there is nothing left. Look at it this way (you don’t actually have to do this, just think it through):
Open a box, or a bag, of candy.
Ask yourself this question, do you want to share (give) your candy to a lot of people or just a few?
Your answer will tell you how big your box or bag is.
Let’s go with a small bag, it holds 5 candies (for ease in this explanation).
You give one candy to your mother and one to your father.
You then decide that you would like to give a candy to one of your friends, so you go to meet that friend.
When you meet up with that friend, one other friendof yours is there.
So, you have to give two candies away
(because you wouldn’t want to be mean and only give a candy to one friend).
Then you decide to walk home. On your way home you meet a child.
The child is crying because they just fell off their bike and hurt themselves.
Without hesitating you give your last candy to the child.
The child and your two friends, and your parents are all happy.
But, you realize, now you don’t get a candy. What happens if no one gives you a candy?
You gave other people candy, those people who needed that candy from you perhaps.
Now, you don’t get any candy because you didn’t get any in return.
Now, turn the candy into your emotional threshold. What happens? There is nothing left for you (just like the candy). When something happens in your life (perhaps stress from school, relationship issues, or something else) there is nowhere for you to put those emotions because you have given all that room away to other people. If the candy thing didn’t really work for you (which it may not have, it was just the first thing that I could think of) try the same or similar story using something else.
The point of this, is the fact that we, as people NEED to be selfish. Not selfish to the point of hoarding everything and keeping everything for ourselves. We all need to live as a give AND take community. If someone wants to offer us something, we can’t just simply take and never give anything back. For some of us (some of you reading this may be part of the ‘us’) we are always the givers and we never get anything back (we may or may not expect it).
Again, truth be told…. we have all been lied to all these years. We NEED to be selfish.
I would appreciate your feedback on this.